As we grow in IT , we develop our own individuality and thinking,
there will be instances to debate your point with peers and Boss. Saying no to
your Boss is quite tricky, our colleagues might have advised against it
countless times, every bone in our body might say that you shouldn’t do it and
you might try to avoid it with utter sincerity but at some point during your
office life, circumstances are such that saying No to your boss becomes
absolutely unavoidable.
You might have the most rational explanations for turning down
instructions from your boss but unless you put forth your denial in a proper
way, it is highly unlikely that you can wriggle out this situation without
harming your reputation.
Better take you case and put your point for debate, than denying
the instructions later stage denting your repute.
Use the following tips to ensure your rational logic doesn’t make
a serious dent in your reputation with the boss:
Present yourself like a Victim! getting most effected
Try to look slightly helpless when putting across your reason or
excuse for turning down the boss’s instructions. For these few moments, shed
the confidence in your strut. Don’t carry yourself into the boss’ cabin with
the usual air of confidence that you exude at work. This is one of the rare
situations in a workplace when looking vulnerable is more likely to help. If
you can act a bit, it would be of great help. Try to look a bit dejected, as if
this moment is a burden on your soul and is weighing you mdown. Try to exude
the helplessness associated with a victim. Looking victimized means that any
excuse/reason you will put across will seem more convincing.
Choose your moment
Bosses are like any other person at work,
i.e. they are likely to have bad days where anything that seems to challenge
their authority or sensibilities can lead to an outburst. Thus, be guarded in
picking the day and the moment when you confront your boss.
Try not to interfere between meetings or
when the boss is busy on the phone or some other work. Try to gauge the boss’
mood. Search for a moment when
the boss looks a bit relaxed and doesn’t exude that typical killer looks that
he/she is known to carry.
It is better to choose a time which
assures that the boss isn't stressed or apprehensive. This includes the period
just after a tea break or after a celebration in the office.
Drown your Defiance
You can be extremely polite and respectful
even when saying No to somebody and this is particularly applicable when
communicating with the boss. Ensure that your choice of words doesn’t border
upon starting an argument.
It shouldn’t seem like you are defying the boss’ authority.
The aim should be to emerge from this
situation with your dignity and reputation intact. So, don’t engage the boss in
an argument. Don’t try to present so many reasons that the boss’
decision-making ability is challenged. Stress
your reason for saying No in a clear voice not with emotional tone . You can be a bit assertive too
but ensure that you choose a low-pitch
tone that doesn’t engage any
kind of confrontation.
Use your appearance to win sympathy with the Boss
If you have the liberty of planning the
moment when you are going to refuse your boss, ensure that you wear dull,
sober-colored clothes. It is better to be devoid any party-like accessories
that otherwise seem to get you lots of compliments at work. In fact, a one or
two-day stubble, is ideal to be worn for this situation, so plan accordingly.
Being prepared can save you the Day
Talk to yourself before your approach the
boss. Make yourself understand that this could have implications like the boss
getting angered and grilling you or it could be surprisingly, trouble-free.
This will help you to cope with the situation in case the boss unleashes a
verbal assault on you. Be on your safe zone, Being prepared ensures that such
offensiveness will not challenge your tolerance and you won’t lose your anger.
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